Introduction: The Greatest Amanah (Trust) Your children are not your property; they are a trust (Amanah) from Allah. In today's digital world, raising a child who holds onto Islamic values is like holding onto a burning coal. But with the right strategy, you can raise a generation that leads, not follows.
The Golden Rule: 7-7-7 Islamic wisdom divides upbringing into three crucial stages:
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Play with them for 7 years: From birth to age 7, focus on love, mercy, and play. Build a strong emotional bond.
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Discipline them for 7 years: From 7 to 14, teach them manners (Adab), Salah, and right from wrong. This is the training phase.
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Befriend them for 7 years: From 14 to 21, the "commander" approach fails. Be their friend, listen to their struggles, and guide them with wisdom.
Practical Tips for Modern Parents
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Be a Role Model: Children are excellent observers but terrible listeners. If you want them to pray, let them see you praying.
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Limit Screen Time: The internet is raising our kids more than we are. Set boundaries and replace screens with family time.
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The Power of Dua: Never underestimate a parent's prayer. Prophet Ibrahim’s main worry was his children: "My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants."
Conclusion Don't stress about giving them a luxurious life; focus on giving them a righteous heart. A pious child is the only investment that pays you dividends even after you die (Sadaqah Jariyah).